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Turn Offs For Girls: 21 Biggest Turn Offs

What do women want? Let’s talk about what women don’t want. Here are the top 21 turn offs for girls and how you can avoid making them.

We’ve all been there: you’re on a date and you think things are going swimmingly, except they’re not. She goes cold, and what seemed like an excellent night has turned into awkward shuffling at her front door coupled with her very unsubtle attempts to get rid of you.

Here’s the thing: women are just like men. What a shocker, right?

Women have their own dating deal-breakers. There are some things that can automatically turn them off a guy, and the worst thing you can do is to commit these sins on the very first date. You’re out of the game before it even starts, man.

So what do you do? Truth be told, many of these turn offs for girls aren’t surprising at all, and they very likely mirror your own non-negotiable dating standards. There are universal dating red flags and they hold true for men and women alike.

That being said, you might not be entirely aware of them, and could end up tanking your own efforts on the first date. It helps to be informed so you don’t mistakenly turn the woman off faster than you can say, “Tinder!”

You have poor hygiene practices.

Some men think you have to have movie star looks to draw women in, but that’s not true. Even the most attractive man in the world can lose serious brownie points if he lives and acts like an absolute slob.

Maintaining proper hygiene can go a seriously long way to up your attractiveness. Get a good haircut, follow a simple but effective skin care routine, and make sure you always smell clean and fresh.

Bonus: get clothes that actually fit you so you don’t look like a slob.

You check out other women while on a date.

This seems like common sense, but you’d be surprised by how many men can’t seem to stop themselves from looking at other women even while on a date. It may seem like reflex for some, but the minute your date catches you, it’s a serious red flag.

It may seem like a small thing to you, but it’s really a very disrespectful act that shows you aren’t ready to give her your full attention.

You drink more than you can handle.

Drinking alcohol isn’t a bad thing, especially when in moderation. However, you don’t want to be the guy who gets way too drunk on the first date. It’s gross, it’s cheap, and it will turn your date off in no time.

Don’t get wasted and make a fool of yourself.

You are rude to service staff.

One of the biggest turn offs for girls is rudeness towards wait staff. Some men think they look impressive when they’re yelling at the service workers at the restaurant, assuming that this makes them seem like a big shot.

In reality, women will see your actions towards service staff and see this as a sign that you’re impolite, disrespectful, and an all-around bad person. That’s the most horrible impression possible and can guarantee you won’t get a second date.

You constantly bring up your ex.

Sure, you want to be honest. However, talking about your ex non-stop — especially when your date hasn’t even asked about her — can be a real bummer.

See, you may think you’re doing the right thing, badmouthing your ex. You think that by criticizing your ex, it shows your date that you are over her. Wrong! Bringing up your ex makes you look like you still haven’t moved on. Whether you say positive or negative things about your ex, doesn’t really matter.

Don’t offer more information about your ex than necessary, especially on the first date!

You act inappropriate.

Making sexual innuendos in a relationship isn’t entirely taboo, but it does require familiarity and the willingness of both parties. If she isn’t willing, making sexual jokes isn’t acceptable and will make things awkward.

It also helps to be aware of your audience. You wouldn’t crack dirty jokes in front of her friends and parents, right? You need to remember that there’s a time and place for everything.

You don’t pay attention to what she’s saying.

Listening is a very important skill, and this can really make or break a relationship before it even starts.

Relationships are built on communication. When you talk, obviously you’d like her to listen to you and provide her input. Not giving her the same courtesy is disrespectful and will turn her off in an instant.

Don’t think you can skate by, nodding your head and feigning interest. If you’re not interested in what she has to say, there’s no reason to go on dating her. Don’t waster her time, and don’t waste yours.

You make fun of her hobbies and interests.

Society has deemed feminine interests as less valuable, hence you have people making fun of boy bands and makeup. When a hobby or interest is seen as “feminine,” it becomes less important.

Get rid of that toxic mentality if you want to date a good woman. Feminine interests are not automatically less valuable than masculine ones, and even the dichotomy of interests based on gender are incredibly flawed and old-fashioned.

Even if you’re not into what she likes, there’s no need to get derisive. You won’t expect her to like all the things you’re into, but wouldn’t you feel silly if she made fun of wrestling because it’s  just fake fighting?

You check your phone non-stop.

In this digital era, one of the worst things you can do is to check your phone non-stop when you’re on a date.

It may seem like second nature to you, and we understand that! We are all glued to our phones these days, and checking social media every so often is pretty much normal fare now.

However, when you’re on a date, checking your phone again and again can be a real slap in the face. You might not say it, but your date will feel like she’s boring you and that she can’t hold your attention.

You act super jealous when she talks to other men.

The green-eyed monster is not cute, and you really shouldn’t let jealousy rule your heart. It’s a serious turn off, and no woman wants to be with a man who is too controlling.

Sure, getting a bit jealous is part of any relationship. Maybe you saw her getting flirty with someone else and it made you bitter. Even so, you shouldn’t let your emotions take over.

Talk to her, and let her know your intentions. The last thing you want is to be all wishy-washy with her.

You give back-handed compliments.

Saying things like “you’re not like other girls” isn’t a good idea. Here’s the thing: it might sound like a compliment to you, until you give it more thought.

When you say she’s not like other girls, what are you saying exactly? How is that a compliment? Are the rest of the women in the world inferior to her, or is being feminine something you consider less desirable?

Be mindful of your compliments, because they might just be getting the opposite effect of what you want.

You act like you know more than she does — on everything.

Being smart isn’t wrong, but adding humility is even better. Don’t assume that you always have to be the expert on everything — that’s unnatural and no woman should demand that of you. In reality, women would be happier to find a man who is willing to learn, especially when it comes to topics that she may be more knowledgeable about.

You’re always late to your dates.

Once or twice is not a deal-breaker. That’s no big deal, especially in these busy times. However, being late to every appointment?

That’s just disrespectful! It shows that you don’t think much of her time, and you wouldn’t think twice about making her wait. To be honest, all you have to do here is to apply the golden rule. You wouldn’t enjoy waiting on someone who’s always late, right?

You’re a sore loser.

Being competitive is fun and adds some spice to any relationship. You might find yourself in circumstances where you have to playfully compete with your date, like on board games or sports.

This, however, is where your true colors can come to light. Are you the sort of person who gets too involved in games? Learn to rein in your poor attitude and make sure you’re not a sore loser.

You don’t keep your promises.

As with being tardy, breaking your promises from time to time isn’t a big deal, especially if you have a legitimate reason. That being said, when you keep less than 50% of your promises, no woman will put up with you.

 You think offensive jokes are funny.

Sexist or misogynist jokes should be banished into the ether, never to be heard of again. The problem is that even in this day and age, some people insist on making these offensive jokes.

When a woman says she finds these jokes unfunny and offensive, the right reaction isn’t to double-down. Don’t dismiss her feelings and call her a prude for not laughing. Instead, really listen to what she has to say, so you understand why these jokes should be relegated to the dust bin of history.

You neglect her when in a gathering with your friends.

You want to introduce her to your friends, and she’s glad to join you on a few gatherings. Great! Make sure that you don’t ruin things by neglecting her the entire time.

It’s difficult, especially if you’re somewhat of an introvert. Perhaps you’re the sort of person who finds it challenging to juggle multiple connections at a given gathering. Even so, as her connection to the group, you are responsible for her enjoyment. Make sure she’s never out of place and that she is always comfortable in a gathering with your friends.

You’re too focused on sex.

Sexual compatibility is a key component of any relationship, but it requires trust and comfort to get to that part. If a woman isn’t ready yet, pressuring her isn’t going to make things any better.

Even when she’s willing to go to bed with you, it’s important to remember that your entire relationship shouldn’t be built on just sex. It gets tiring after some time, and she will likely assume that sex is all you’re after. That’s definitely a turn off, especially if she’s looking for something more long-term.

You have bad manners.

Good looks can’t cover up for bad manners. If you’re constantly interrupting her, talking over her, and disrespecting her choices, she’s not going to stick around. Women may find you interesting at first, especially if you look good and seem to have a lot going for you.

In the long run, though, personality is a lot more important. Women don’t have to stay with a man who will constantly belittle and demean them.

You can’t control your anger.

Masculinity and anger — what a toxic combination. Yet most men are raised to be angry rather than sad — a very unhealthy training that often culminates in violence. Controlling your anger is very important, be it in dating or life in general.

Do you yell at the drivers who cut you off? Do you get really mad at sales associates when they can’t give you what you want? That sort of behavior is frightening and can definitely drive women away.

You aren’t straight with your intentions.

You know what’s one of the biggest turn offs for girls? Men who can’t say what they want, straight up.

There’s no reason to keep playing games if what you want is a solid relationship. Mind games have no place in a real connection, and you’re wasting her time if you can’t be honest about your feelings.

Let her know what you want and what you expect. Being upfront, committed, and honest is all a woman can ask for.